The other week, Mark was talking to his friend, Adam, on the phone. When he hung up he told me Adam’s birthday is 11/17 and he was going to go to a Brazilian steakhouse or something like that with a group. I said that sounded fun. He then told me Adam was going to be renting a cabin up in the mountains that Saturday to just go out and stargaze with his telescope. I figured this was something he and his girlfriend Nichole were going to do alone because there was no mention from Mark of being invited.

So last night as we’re getting ready to go to sleep, he brought up the steakhouse again and asked me if I wanted to go. I said yes. They’re either going to go to a Brazilian steakhouse, Pappadeaux’s (a seafood place) or Dante’s Down the Hatch (a fondue place). I’m fine with all of those, have never been to any of them, and it sounds fun. I’m all in for that.

As we lay in bed, he brought up the cabin situation and asked if we would be doing that too. My mind freaked out. I’m sorry, but I don’t do impromptu overnight trips. If I’m going to be away overnight, I need a couple of weeks to adjust to the idea and plan for it. I said that it sounded fun, but I needed more notice. He said he told me about it the other week and I informed him that I’m not a mind reader and there was never any indication from him that we were invited.

Mark pouted for a while, but I don’t think he’s going to resent me too much for this. I really wish I could get him to understand the concept of notice. He seems to think just because he likes living life minute to minute that everyone does the same thing. He’ll tell me that he wants to invite people over or throw a party or something at least a week ahead of time and then proceeds not to invite anyone until the day before or day of. And then he gets upset when no one shows up.

I hate to feel like the bad guy for this, but it’s THREE days away! I had other things I personally wanted to get done this weekend and even though I’ll probably get around to none of them, I really just don’t think it’s fair at all of him to spring this on me three days in advance and then get upset when I don’t like the short notice.

I keep telling him I need notice for big things, but he just isn’t getting it.

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